Compiled from letters, diaries, interviews, and other archival artifacts, the book is a well-researched compendium of mini biographies of writers, painters, musicians, inventors, etc. Each of the entries in Daily Rituals is entertaining on its own, but as they accumulate, second orders of meaning reveal themselves. Many of these artists never really made a living from their work, and more often than not their idiosyncratic routines were directly sustained by the labor of spouses and servants, afforded by independent wealth, or both.
Likewise, those without the resources to hold themselves apart from the grinding demands of survival often suffered for it in direct and striking ways — both in their work and often in their health. None of which is new information, just hard to miss when you inhale a dozen descriptions of different variations on cocktail hour in a row. Currey explains that this coda to recalibrate the gender balance is not only the right thing to do but a more robust realization of his original intention to provide modern readers with inspiration for their own creative pursuits.
Currey takes it as a given that frustrated and compromised is a state most of us will be able to relate to. Where the first installment of Daily Rituals delighted in the anecdotal for its own sake, the second is a little less sprightly. As a result, many entries read as simultaneously overdetermined and thin: too burdened to be quippy, yet lacking enough context to make a larger point. French novelist Colette was literally imprisoned by her husband while she worked, locked in a room to write coming-of-age stories he would punch up and publish under his own nom de plume Colette wrote under her own name after they divorced.
What are we supposed to make of these stories?
And it made me think in a different way about how fetishizing habit plays into larger cultural trends around creative labor. Where ambition meets wellness culture, we find a kindlier and more nurturing vision of what success looks like: the idea that any fully realized person can make art, and likewise, an art-making habit will transform you into a fully realized person.
These models encourage us to view everyday living as an act of artistic self-expression unto itself. And the nice thing is that anyone can do it: These programs posit that genius is a practice, not an innate quality.
The magic is in the details, and the details are the minutes and hours of the time you spend doing, well, pretty much anything. But as the offense of navel-gazing has evolved to something more like tender and fastidious navel-grooming I would know — I once had the most well-tended navel on the prairie! This hit me hard when I read How to Not Always Be Working: A Toolkit for Creativity and Radical Self-Care by Marlee Grace, who is a dancer, writer, improviser, podcaster, shop owner, workshop facilitator, creative adviser, and all around ur-millennial maker.
Grace is probably best known for her Instagram account Personal Practice , which is a compelling and delightful documentation of her daily improvised dance habit. How to Not Always Be Working is a kind of manifesto crossed with a workbook for the confused, burned-out , phone-addicted creative who just wants to know where life ends and work begins. She offers tips and tricks and best practices gently, almost reluctantly, hedging anything that might be read as prescriptive with anecdotes about her own failures to work and not work.
She also gives up the floor by weaving in asides from other creative types detailing their own work habits and leaves fill-in-the-blank exercises for the reader.
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Work is subjective. The elevation of our habits to sacred acts aims to reappraise what counts as time meaningfully spent. How many of us can really do that? Can we afford to? Where would we start? And are any of us capable of doing good work without longing to be recognized or rewarded for it? Much in the same way that the fetish for wellness swallows and camouflages the desire to be thin, maybe getting in touch with your most authentic creative self is at some base level still about increasing productivity and status.
Which forces me toward some unpleasant questions: Is real creativity even possible under capitalism? Does worshipping at a creative altar just mean finding new ways to win? Now, corporate America has coopted creativity into a marketable identity for both workers and jobs, and yet our economic system fails to sustain the vast majority of people who actually create things. The audience was small enough to feel like we were getting to see something up close, too large to really be intimate. Uptalk, he explained, is the "ever-growing tendency to end statements with upward inflections to make them sound like questions.
Davis revealed that he started noticing the speech pattern in Canada in the early aughts.
Although there is no clear origin , he noted the manner of speaking spread from Canada to the United States and across the pond to England. Of course, Davis isn't the only one infuriated by uptalk. Ever stop and wonder why so many guys seem to spit pretty much as soon as they step outside?
Well, we did. And, apparently, it's not just to gross us out. As it turns out, though, there may also be a biological reason why men are more likely than women to spit on an unsuspecting sidewalk.
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One study found that healthy men had larger salivary glands than healthy women. As such, they also experienced a higher "flow rate" of saliva. True story. You may love chewing a piece of Big Red or Dubble Bubble, but what about listening to someone else smack their chewing gum or pop bubbles? Mouth sounds are especially triggering to those with the condition and the sounds from chewing gum are certainly not excluded.
For a person with misophonia, gum-chewing sounds seem to make "the survival part of the brain" believe it's "being attacked or it's in danger. In addition to misophonia, other people also experience chiclephobia , or the fear of chewing gum. Those with this phobia may be terrified of the stuff and find it completely gross. When people chew loudly or smack it and pull it out of their mouth, that's the worst. As much as you may not want to believe this: millions of Americans bite their nails.
So, why, despite all of the evidence, do a lot of us still engage in this totally frustrating and destructive habit? Much like nicotine, experts believe there's a biphasic effect to nail-biting, which means it can work as a stimulant or a depressant depending on the circumstance.
It is possible to curb this habit, though. Penzel explained, "We try to identify all the triggers and control them in various ways — either by blocking them or by finding substitutes.
He continued, writing, "For some, it's simply an annoying thing that other people do. If you're a knuckle-cracker, your mom may have warned you that if you didn't stop, you'd end up with arthritis. However, we now know that's not true. But what is happening when you crack your knuckles?
The science behind it may make even those of us who have this habit squeamish. Essentially, cracking your knuckles increases the space between your joints. In turn, gas bubbles in the joint fluid burst. It sounds gross — and is gross, to some people — but it is "probably harmless. It seems every meeting has its designated pen-clicker.
If you've ever come close to hulking out in the middle of the workday over this incessant, irritating noise, we hear you. Although many people with misophonia are triggered by mouth noises, pen-clicking can be just as infuriating. Medical News Today reported that "clicking a pen can make them want to scream or hit out. Likewise, it's also important to remember that someone with misophonia can't simply forget about the sound. In fact, the publication said telling someone to ignore the annoying noise is akin to "telling a person with depression to 'snap out of it.
After all, both misophonia and depression are conditions of the brain.
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It's hard to have a conversation with someone who constantly interrupts you. Although we may all be guilty of doing this at times, some have made it a habit. And they may not even have realized this is the case. One Reddit user posed the question via The Telegraph : "What's a bad habit you never knew you did until someone pointed it out to you? One user admitted, "I always interrupt people and ever since it was pointed out to me I've been shocked by how often I've had to stop myself butting in.
Rhonda Scharf, a professional speaker, admitted in an article for HuffPost that she, too, possesses the "very bad" and "incredibly annoying habit" of cutting off other people while they're talking. How often do you borrow things without returning them? While we've all probably forgotten about a library book or two, borrowing something from a friend and then failing to return it is a habit that most definitely causes frustration.
Even if your friend never brings up the time you borrowed her little black dress and never brought it back, there's a good chance she remembers — and that memory isn't a fond one. Regardless of how you feel about talking on the phone, we can all agree that hearing someone else's phone conversation is beyond annoying.